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- [CHASERS AND THE FETISHIZATION OF TRANS WOMEN 1: EXPLANATION AND EXAMPLES](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/chasers-and-the-fetishization-of-trans-women/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Today’s topic is a very real problem trans women have to deal with. Cis folks, specifically cis men, especially white men, especially heterosexual men, super especially cishet white men, please pay attention. Here comes CHASERS AND THE FETISHIZATION OF TRANS WOMEN 1: EXPLANATION AND EXAMPLES. This is a serious and really
- [RADICAL TRANS ACCEPTANCE (ROLLER DERBY)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/01/27/radical-trans-acceptance-roller-derby/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Last year I did something I’d kind of wanted to do for my entire life, but it felt closed off to me. But now it wasn’t. And what I found was something truly remarkable. This is about RADICAL TRANS ACCEPTANCE. But it’s also about ROLLER DERBY. Let me start by saying
- [FINDING OUR TRANS STYLE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/finding-our-trans-style/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! I’ve put this one off for actual years because I just didn’t feel able to discuss it. But now I do! Maybe? I dunno, let’s find out together as we talk FINDING OUR TRANS STYLE. For trans people who transition as adults, figuring out our style is something of a giant puzzle. Well,
- [SIX YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/07/07/six-years-out-and-on-hrt-check-in/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! It’s July, and not only is it July, it’s the seventh of July! Which means it’s exactly six years to the day that I publicly came out! So that means it’s time for my SIX YEARS OUT AND ON HRT RETROSPECTIVE! To follow my entire journey on HRT, and being an
- [RAINBOW CAPITALISM 2: FROM BAD TO WORSE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/06/30/rainbow-capitalism-2-from-bad-to-worse/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! The commodification of trans rights under capitalism has always been complicated and often awful, but things recently took a nosedive… by removing that commodification entirely. Let’s talk RAINBOW CAPITALISM 2: FROM BAD TO WORSE. We can’t start this discussion without talking about RAINBOW CAPITALISM first. But this is part two, so
- [RAINBOW CAPITALISM](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/12/rainbow-capitalism/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s Pride month, so that means we’re gonna talk about Target, and Dylan Mulvaney/Bud Light, and the Los Angeles Dodgers, and: RAINBOW CAPITALISM. If you’re unsure exactly what Rainbow Capitalism is, or why it upsets so many people, this is the thread for you. We have evidence galore! But what it basically amounts
- [INTERVIEW WITH MIA V. MOSS ABOUT "THE HERESY OF THIEVES"](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/06/23/interview-with-mia-v-moss-about-the-heresy-of-thieves/) - NOTE: This week’s update is a transcription of a live interview done as part of the Tilly’s Trans Tuesdays podcast. Special thanks to Kestrel Clayton for the transcription! Tilly Bridges: Welcome to Tilly's Trans Tuesdays! This week, we interview author Mia V. Moss on their upcoming novel The Heresy of Thieves. TB: Hi, I'm Tilly Bridges, your
- [CONFIDENCE 3: EMBRACING YOUR TRUE SELF](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/06/16/confidence-3-embracing-your-true-self/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week I want to discuss a huge change I recently noticed, brought about by transition. But it happened so gradually that I didn’t even notice until it hit me like a cyborg assassin. Let’s talk CONFIDENCE 3: EMBRACING YOUR TRUE SELF. I want to begin by saying, despite this being
- [GENDER EUPHORIA](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/07/gender-euphoria/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Today we’re going to talk about something referenced in a whole lot of these essays. It’s one of the best things about being trans for me, and for most trans people, and it’s also something cis people can experience too: GENDER EUPHORIA. I probably link to this essay more than any
- [HALLOWEEN (and the fear of embracing your true self)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/the-fear-of-embracing-your-true-self-halloween/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! It’s time for spooky spoops, costumes, and candy. So we’re gonna talk about HALLOWEEN, but what this is really about is THE FEAR OF EMBRACING YOUR TRUE SELF (when your entire life has been a costume). Halloween was always a weird time for me. I love the holiday and autumn (such
- [LETTING GO](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/letting-go/) - (art by Natalia Lavrinenko on Pixabay) Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week I discuss a really important step on the journey to discovering our true selves, and who we imagined that person might be. The only way to get there is by: LETTING GO. This is something that actually didn’t occur to me before I
- [THE CONSTANT FIGHT](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/the-constant-fight/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Today we’re talking about what everyday existence is like for trans people, living in a cis-made world that doesn’t account for our existence, or worse, tries to stop it. Here comes THE CONSTANT FIGHT (of existing while trans). Does the above gif of the Burly Brawl from Matrix Reloaded confuse you?
- [TRANS KIDS 1: FACTS AND DANGERS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/trans-kids-and-the-intake-exam/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we discuss something that hasn’t left the news anytime in recent memory, and it’s one of those “hot button issues” that honestly and truly shouldn’t be an issue at all. Here’s TRANS KIDS 1: FACTS AND DANGERS. The first thing you need to know is that, yes, trans kids
- [TRANS HISTORY 2 (examples of trans people from history)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/27/trans-history-2-examples-of-trans-people-from-history/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! August is Trans History Month, and this week our topic TRANS HISTORY 2: EXAMPLES OF TRANS PEOPLE IN HISTORY. You’ll first want to start with TRANS HISTORY 1 (how and why we name trans people in history), from last week. It’s especially important because it talks about how vital it is to name
- [INTERVIEW WITH NICOLE MAINES ABOUT DREAMER](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/05/26/interview-with-nicole-maines-about-dreamer/) - NOTE: This week’s update is a transcription of a live interview done as part of the Tilly’s Trans Tuesdays podcast. Special thanks to Nomi-Be for the transcription! Tilly Bridges: Welcome to Tilly's Trans Tuesdays! This week, we interview Nicole Maines, the driving force behind DC Comics' Dreamer, both in comics and on screen, in anticipation of the Dream
- [PERFORMATIVE ALLYSHIP](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/performative-allyship/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! A key topic I’ve touched on in many trans Tuesdays is cis allyship, and how important it is to actually making things better for trans people. But some folks who think they’re allies… aren’t. So today we’re gonna talk about PERFORMATIVE ALLYSHIP. This topic is entirely entwined with a lot of
- [TRANS PANIC](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/trans-panic/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week’s topic wasn’t one I ever thought I’d do, because I thought it was something everyone was aware of. Turns out: no. Every time it comes up people are surprised and horrified. So let me tell you about TRANS PANIC. I wish this were something cute, like every time I
- [CIS PEOPLE GET GENDER AFFIRMING HEALTHCARE TOO ](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/cis-people-get-gender-affirming-healthcare-too/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! I’ve talked so many times about how trans people and cis people really aren’t all that different, but there’s one way most cis people never realize that may just blow your mind. Strap in for CIS PEOPLE GET GENDER AFFIRMING HEALTHCARE TOO. There are lots of these Trans Tuesdays where I point out,
- [CHASERS AND THE FETISHIZATION OF TRANS WOMEN 2: REACTIONS AND ORIGINS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/05/05/chasers-and-the-fetishization-of-trans-women-2-reactions-and-origins/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we dive into what happens when trans women actually call out those responsible for fetishizing us, and look at where this all comes from. You won’t believe it… but then again, maybe you will. Here’s CHASERS AND THE FETISHIZATION OF TRANS WOMEN 2: REACTIONS AND ORIGINS. Be sure you’ve
- [INCLUSIVE BUREAUCRACY](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/inclusive-bureaucracy/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! In a lot of these I talk about things that are rough, or upsetting, or downright awful, because so much of our society is set up to treat trans people that way. But I also like to talk about the good stuff, so let’s discuss: INCLUSIVE BUREAUCRACY. That is an exceptionally
- [DISCRIMINATORY BUREAUCRACY](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/discriminatory-bureaucracy/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we talk about something that pops up often in life after you transition, and for lack of a better term I’m gonna call it: DISCRIMINATORY BUREAUCRACY. This sort of thing has cropped up so many times, and in every instance it has been unintentional (at least as far as
- [NO ESCAPE 2: SOME ESCAPE (due to cis allyship)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/no-escape-2-some-escape-aka-cis-allyship/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we’re going to discuss how trans existence can just be so confusing to some cis people, even while other cis people can bring much needed relief simply by seeing us for who we really are. Let’s talk NO ESCAPE 2: SOME ESCAPE (due to cis allyship). As a primer,
- [SUPERMAN'S TRANS AFFIRMATION](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/03/24/supermans-trans-affirmation/) - Note: a version of this week's essay first appeared in the Everyone You've Ever Met is Beautiful: Essays on James Gunn's Superman zine. Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we’re going to talk about one of my favorite things in the entire world: Superman. And the quiet, powerful, message that came with his new movie,
- [INTERVIEW WITH ALEX RITANY ABOUT "MAYBE TOMORROW I'LL KNOW"](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/03/31/interview-with-alex-ritany-about-maybe-tomorrow-ill-know/) - NOTE: This week’s update is a transcription of a live interview done as part of the Tilly’s Trans Tuesdays podcast. Special thanks to Nomi-Be for the transcription! Tilly Bridges: Welcome to Tilly's Trans Tuesdays. This week, we interview writer Alex Ritany about their upcoming book, Maybe Tomorrow I'll Know. And trust me when I say you're going
- [INTERVIEW WITH JADZIA AXELROD ABOUT GALAXY](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/03/17/interview-with-jadzia-axelrod-about-galaxy/) - NOTE: This week’s update is a transcription of a live interview done as part of the Tilly’s Trans Tuesdays podcast. Special thanks to Nicole Lynn Ó Catháin for the transcription! (Look for her at Seattle Reign women's soccer matches - she's the one waving the trans pride flag with the Valkyrie crown!) Tilly Bridges: Welcome to Tilly's
- [INTERVIEW WITH AURORA ZENITH ABOUT THE JOY WHO LIVED TRANS THEATER FESTIVAL](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/03/10/interview-with-aurora-zenith-about-the-joy-who-lived-trans-theater-festival/) - NOTE: This week’s update is a transcription of a live interview done as part of the Tilly’s Trans Tuesdays podcast. Special thanks to Duna Mae Cat for the transcription! Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week, we’re gonna talk about an amazing trans theater festival here in Los Angeles, and the good news is the entire thing will
- [TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2025 MEDIA part 4: TV part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/03/03/trans-representation-in-2025-media-part-4-tv-part-1/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we discuss the rest of the television I watched and look at the overall numbers and see if we can spot some trends, in TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2025 MEDIA part 4: TV part 3! If you really want the full picture from these four essays, please be sure to
- [TRANS HISTORY 3: INTERVIEW WITH ALEX L. COMBS AND ANDREW EAKETT](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/04/01/trans-history-3-interview-with-alex-l-combs-and-andrew-eakett/) - NOTE: This week's update is a transcription of a live interview done as part of the Tilly's Trans Tuesdays podcast. Special thanks to Kate Rascali for the transcription! Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we have TRANS HISTORY 3, INTERVIEW WITH ALEX L. COMBS AND ANDREW EAKETT, creators of the graphic novel, Trans History: From
- [TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2025 MEDIA part 3: TV part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/02/24/trans-representation-in-2025-media-part-3-tv-part-2/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! It’s time to look at some of the absolute weirdest instances of trans rep, or lack thereof, in TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2025 MEDIA part 3: TV part 2! Be sure you’ve read PART 1: MOVIES and PART 2: TV PART 1 first, because these are all part of a whole, and
- [TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2025 MEDIA part 2: TV part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/02/17/trans-representation-in-2025-media-part-2-tv-part-1/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! How did TV go in terms of trans rep in 2025? So glad you asked, because here comes TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2025 MEDIA part 2: TV part 1! If you haven’t read TRANS REP IN 2025 MEDIA, part 1: MOVIES yet, do so! It’s got all the contextual goodness that explains
- [TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2025 MEDIA part 1: MOVIES](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/02/10/trans-representation-in-2025-media-part-1-movies/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! It’s time once again for my annual report on the good, the bad, and the yikes in popular culture. Here comes TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2025 MEDIA part 1: MOVIES! These reports have become some of the most popular essays and podcast episodes across Trans Tuesdays, and that’s fab. I talk about
- [TRANS SPORTS 2: SCIENCE AND BIGOTRY](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/09/09/trans-sports-2-science-and-bigotry/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Let’s get to the bottom of this huge, discriminatory issue that is not actually a real issue at all: TRANS PEOPLE IN SPORTS 2: SCIENCE AND BIGOTRY! Be sure you’ve read TRANS SPORTS 1: ORIGINS AND “ADVANTAGES” first! Okay, so republicans would have you believe trans women are “taking over” women’s
- [THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 8](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/12/23/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-8/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Tillyvision dial set to max bronze for THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 8! This week, we get all the transition care we need and self-actualization arrives! For the last time (in this series, anyway), I’m gonna pester you to be sure you’ve read PART 1, PART 2,
- [THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 7](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/12/16/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-7/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Tillyvision batteries at maximum for THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 7! This week transition goes further than ever, which causes those we love to reveal their true nature! C’mon, just read PART 1, PART 2, PART 3, PART 4, PART 5, and PART 6 first so that
- [THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 6](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/12/09/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-6/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Tillyvision’s gonna getcha in THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 6! Finally, transition begins… and it brings with it a whole new set of problems to deal with! Heed me now or forever be doomed: ye need PART 1, PART 2, PART 3, PART 4, and even PART
- [TRANS HISTORY 1 (how and why we name trans people in history)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/20/trans-history-1/) - I’m not a historian. I’m not an expert in trans history, though I find it fascinating. I myself have a lot to learn on the topic, but one thing I DO know is that there have always been trans people. Trans is just something you are, like gay or bi or cis, or blonde or
- [TRANS BIRTHDAYS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/16/trans-birthdays/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! It’s less than a week until my birthday (seems I keep having them every year and thank goodness). Birthdays can be weird for lots of people, but for some trans people like me, they’re extra strange. So let’s talk TRANS BIRTHDAYS (and a letter to little Tilly). My first birthday after
- [THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 4](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/11/25/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-4/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Tillyvision speeds down the slopes in THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 4! This week we discuss Lisa’s super trans dream, and how hate and bigotry can come in passive-aggressive forms! Like a good student of the art of cinema, you’ll have read PART 1, PART 2, and
- [THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 5](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/12/02/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-5/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Tillyvision stops for no one (except for me, when we get to the end) in THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 5! This week we’ll examine the hell we’ve been trapped in, and confront a part of ourselves we’d left for dead! I don’t know how many times
- [THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/11/18/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-3/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Tillyvision can’t be stopped as we dive into THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 3! This week we see what loved ones not being accepting can do to us, and see if a little trans energy can wake us up! You’ll want to read PART 1 and PART
- [THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/11/11/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-2/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Tillyvision rolls on in THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 2! This week we get into what chains our hearts, and how awful it is to be seen when you aren’t the real you. Be sure you’ve read PART 1 before this, it came first for a reason
- [PHOTOS 2: THE SELFIE APOCALYPSE!](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/photos-2-the-selfie-apocalypse/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about a change nearly every trans person hopes for but never knows if it’ll arrive… seeing ourselves in photos. Here comes PHOTOS 2: THE SELFIE APOCALYPSE! 😱 This is, like, a 300-level trans class, so be sure you’ve taken the prerequisite classes like GENDER DYSPHORIA. And another prerequisite,
- [PHOTOS AND REFLECTIONS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/photos-and-reflections/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re covering something that plagues so many trans people for so long, and can be so incredibly painful. And even when we transition, we don’t know for sure if it’ll get any better: PHOTOS AND REFLECTIONS. For many trans folks, photos and reflections don’t show us representations of ourselves. We
- [THE UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/11/04/the-unintentionally-intentional-trans-allegory-of-lisa-frankenstein-part-1/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Tillyvision is back again to talk about the first explicitly transmasc allegory I’ve seen! Let’s dive into the delightful, the weird, the wonderful UNINTENTIONALLY INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF LISA FRANKENSTEIN, part 1! This week: context, color, names, and more! I’ve done a lot of trans allegory in media writeups, and they’ve
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE, part 4](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/20/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-4/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision chugs along with THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE (the movie), PART 4! You’re going to get two really important visual clues as to what Barbie’s going through, more Matrix connections, and problems abound! Here’s your starting context in PART 1. The beginning of timestamp-o-rama in PART 2. And getting into some
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE, part 6](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-6/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision, full speed ahead, right into THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE (the movie), PART 6! Flashbacks and overcompensation ahoy! The context from PART 1. The beginning of the journey in PART 2. The awakening in PART 3. The discovery of PART 4. And the complications of PART 5. 53:07 - I want
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 7](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/10/15/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-i-saw-the-tv-glow-part-7/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision comes in for a landing in THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 7! Owen or Isabel? Who will survive, who will get buried forever? It may not be who you think. This is a bad place to start, so for that go to PART 1! Who
- [NO ESCAPE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/no-escape/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Today I want to talk about something that was difficult for me to deal with, especially early on in transition. Let’s talk NO ESCAPE (from reminders that I’m trans). Now listen, do not get the wrong idea. I do not wish that I were cis. I do not wish that I
- [Interview with Cicada Queen V about her game "When Summer is Over"](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/10/14/interview-with-cicada-queen-v-about-her-game-when-summer-is-over/) - You can play When Summer is Over... right in your web browser window. Please read and heed content warnings. NOTE: This week's update is a transcription of a live interview done as part of the Tilly's Trans Tuesdays podcast. Special thanks to Kate Rascali for the transcription! Tilly Bridges: Welcome to Tilly's Trans Tuesdays! This
- [COMING OUT AS TRANS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/10/07/coming-out-as-trans/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! National Coming Out Day is approaching, so let’s get into what can be a difficult and complicated issue for so many of us: COMING OUT AS TRANS. When people hear the words “coming out,” I think so many default to seeing it as a celebration, a joyous occasion, a party. And
- [TRANS KIDS 2: THE INTAKE EXAM AND TRANS FLIGHT](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/09/23/trans-kids-2-the-intake-exam-and-trans-flight/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! We conclude our talk on trans kids by learning what most go through just to access that care, and what their parents will do to protect them, in THE INTAKE EXAM AND TRANS FLIGHT. Be sure you've read TRANS KIDS 1: FACTS AND DANGERS, so you know what is actually involved
- [TRANS SPORTS 1: ORIGINS AND “ADVANTAGES”](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/trans-people-in-sports/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This topic is such a non-issue scientifically, but it’s been used as a bludgeon against trans people (especially trans women), and a wedge to hold the door open to legalizing discrimination, so let’s talk: TRANS PEOPLE IN SPORTS 1: ORIGINS AND “ADVANTAGES”! The entire “issue” of trans people in sports is
- [THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY RESULTS, part 4](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/08/26/the-2022-us-trans-survey-results-part-4/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we continue with more hard data on trans life in THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY RESULTS, part 4! We’ve got satisfaction rates, numbers on detransitioners, and mental health! A quick warning before we get into things: there will be some discussion of suicide rates and prevalence, and where that
- [THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY RESULTS, part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/08/19/the-2022-us-trans-survey-results-part-3/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Some final results from the largest-ever survey of trans people have finally been tabulated and released, so let’s talk about THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY RESULTS, part 3! This week is all about our experiences with healthcare providers. Spoilers: there’s problems! I’ve previously covered this survey, and how important it was
- [THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY RESULTS, part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/12/the-2022-us-trans-survey-results-part-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! We’ve got lots more data to discuss this week in part 2 of THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY RESULTS! If you missed last week, definitely start there and learn about why this survey was so vital, and the importance of it being conducted by trans people. Only 36% of adult respondents said all of
- [TRANS TOUCH 3: SEX AND BEING TOUCH-STARVED](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/08/12/trans-touch-3-sex-and-being-touch-starved/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Let’s wrap up our discussion on trans folks and physical contact (which means yeah, we’re gonna talk about sex some) in: TRANS TOUCH 3: SEX AND BEING TOUCH-STARVED. Of course, you’ll want to know my own personal experiences with physical contact in TRANS TOUCH 1, and the first half of our
- [TRANS TOUCH 1: PERSONAL EXPERIENCES](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/07/29/trans-touch-1-personal-experiences/) - (header art by Natalia Lavrinenko on Pixabay) Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we discuss a huge and complicated issue for so many trans and nonbinary folks… physical contact. Love it or hate it, here comes: TRANS TOUCH 1: PERSONAL EXPERIENCES. There’s so much to talk about regarding touch, both friendly or platonic, and sexual,
- [TRANS TOUCH 2: PLATONIC TOUCH AND HUGS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/08/05/trans-touch-2-platonic-touch-and-hugs/) - (header art by Natalia Lavrinenko on Pixabay) Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Time to dive into your survey responses and see how other trans and nonbinary folks feel about physical contact in: TRANS TOUCH 2: PLATONIC TOUCH AND HUGS. For my own personal journey regarding physical contact and my transition, and understanding why the entire concept
- [UNEXPECTED CHANGES FROM TRANSITION](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/unexpected-changes-from-transition/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! We all hope for a whole host of changes to come with transition, but some of them are entirely surprising for a variety of reasons. So this week we dive into: UNEXPECTED CHANGES FROM TRANSITION (and a wild story from SDCC 2023)! First let me say that if you’re reading this when it’s
- [FIVE YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/07/08/five-years-out-and-on-hrt-check-in/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Hey hey it’s July, and that means you’re gonna get my FIVE YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN! Let’s see where everything’s at, half a decade in! If you’d like to chart my entire journey on hormone replacement therapy, and my entire journey being an out trans woman, check out my
- [BAD REPRESENTATION: EMILIA PÉREZ](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/01/14/bad-representation-emilia-perez/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! We’re starting off the year by discussing one of the more harmful bits of depictions of trans women to come out in recent years. Here comes BAD REPRESENTATION: EMILIA PÉREZ. Emilia Pérez was a movie released in 2024, about a Mexican trans woman, written and directed by a French cis white
- [THE PAST 2: THE NEW PAST (KJ AND PAPER GIRLS)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/the-new-past/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! We’re gonna talk about something that kind of caught me completely off-guard, because I honestly never thought something like this could happen. Here’s THE PAST 2: THE NEW PAST aka FINDING OUR OWN REPRESENTATION 2, aka KJ AND PAPER GIRLS. This is gonna be about life, and loss, and love, this
- [PARENTS WHO WILL NEVER KNOW THE REAL YOU (my dad)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/12/parents-who-will-never-know-the-real-you-my-dad/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re going small and personal, yet is still entirely related to my transness in ways I will never be able to escape. So let’s talk about: PARENTS WHO WILL NEVER KNOW THE REAL YOU. And for me, that means: MY DAD. His birthday is not too far from when this thread
- [FOUR YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/four-years-out-and-on-hrt-check-in/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s July again, and that means time to see there things are at in my FOUR YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN! Body changes, social changes, and so very much more! If you’d like to chart my entire journey on hormone replacement therapy, and my entire journey being an out trans woman, you
- [THREE YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/three-years-out-and-on-hrt-check-in/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Milestones abound! I’ve just passed two big dates that are pretty close together, and that means it’s time to take stock of where we’re at. So here’s my THREE YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN! For reference, you may want to first read my ONE YEAR OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN thread first
- [TWO YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/two-years-out-and-on-hrt-check-in/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week and last week are big milestones for me. As of July 7 I’ve been out as myself for two years, and as of TODAY I’ve been on HRT for two years. So it’s time for a check-in with TWO YEARS OUT and TWO YEARS ON HORMONE REPLACEMENT THERAPY. For reference, you
- [ONE YEAR OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/one-year-out-and-on-hrt-check-in/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! I’m finally going to do my one year out/one year on HRT check-in! Technically this should have been done a month ago, but I… had the date wrong on when I started HRT. Whoopsie! Anyway, let’s see where things are at in my ONE YEAR OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN. I’m not going
- [GENDER DYSPHORIA](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/gender-dysphoria/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week’s topic is a big one, and kind of the reason for everything. That’s right, we’re talking about everyone’s least favorite thing, our not-so-friendly constant companion: GENDER DYSPHORIA. Dypshoria’s remarkably difficult to talk about. Finding the right words to express it is beyond difficult, and I’m a damned writer. I’ve been trying to
- [WHY IS THERE NO CIS PRIDE?](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/06/24/why-is-there-no-cis-pride/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we cover a topic that shouldn’t need covering at all, but some people are determined to remain purposefully ignorant. So let’s answer the question: WHY IS THERE NO CIS PRIDE? Okay listen, I’ve got to tell you… I wasn’t even sure how to approach this topic, because it’s so
- [COMPLETE TRANS HEALTHCARE (or lack thereof)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/complete-trans-healthcare-or-lack-thereof/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re talking about a little thing I’m going to call COMPLETE TRANS HEALTHCARE, or more pointedly, THE LACK THEREOF. This was brought about by this image above, which you may think, HA that’s funny for I obvs do not have a cervix. But the thing is, while this is funny, it’s not
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF STRANGE NEW WORLDS’ AD ASTRA PER ASPERA, part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/06/17/the-intentional-trans-allogory-of-strange-new-worlds-ad-astra-per-aspera-part-3/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Look out, here comes THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF STRANGE NEW WORLDS’ AD ASTRA PER ASPERA, part 3! We wrap up the story of Una and the Illyrians, and let’s see if this hopeful, accepting future can show our present reality a way forward! Here’s PART 1 and PART 2
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF STAR TREK: STRANGE NEW WORLDS’ AD ASTRA PER ASPERA, part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/06/10/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-star-trek-strange-new-worlds-ad-astra-per-aspera-part-2/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! It’s time for THE INTENTIONAL (?!) TRANS ALLOGORY OF STRANGE NEW WORLDS’ AD ASTRA PER ASPERA, part 2! This week, we see that “being good” won’t save us, and the hypocrisy of those who oppress us! Let’s get right to it! Be sure you’ve read PART 1 first, it’s got all
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF STAR TREK: STRANGE NEW WORLDS’ AD ASTRA PER ASPERA, part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/06/03/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-star-trek-strange-new-worlds-ad-astra-per-aspera-part-1/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! By now you likely know that I live and breathe Star Trek, and so it’s such an absolute joy to take you through THE INTENTIONAL (?!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF STRANGE NEW WORLDS’ AD ASTRA PER ASPERA, part 1: context and diving in by timestamps! If you’re new to Star Trek, a
- [TRANS TABLETOP ROLEPLAYING GAMES](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/05/27/trans-tabletop-roleplaying-games/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we’re diving into what seems like a niche hobby, but it’s one way a whole lot of trans people, myself included, first got to explore our complicated feelings on gender. Let’s talk TRANS TABLETOP ROLEPLAYING GAMES. First, let me note that a version of this essay first appeared as
- [BODY HAIR](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/20/body-hair/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Today we’re gonna talk about BODY HAIR. What fun! ...for some people, I guess? But not for me! Your frame of reference for this is that body hair is one of the things that spikes my gender dysphoria. It’s probably best to read GENDER DYSPHORIA first so you understand why I
- [PUSHBACK OVERKILL](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/05/13/pushback-overkill/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! I wasn’t quite sure what to call today’s topic, as it’s something awful that can happen in a lot of different contexts. But we need to talk about it and it needs a name, so here comes: PUSHBACK OVERKILL. “Tilly! The hell is ‘pushback overkill?’” I hear you furiously screaming in
- [HORMONE REPLACEMENT THERAPY](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/hormone-replacement-therapy/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Today we’re covering a big topic that affects so many trans people: HORMONE REPLACEMENT THERAPY. But right up front, you need to know this essay is also about PATIENCE. To be sure we’re all on the same page right from the start, you do not have to be on (or even
- [TRANS PARENTS (Mother's Day)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/trans-parents-mothers-day/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week’s topic is tough, and I’ve talked about it before and it was awkward, and I think it’s still gonna be awkward. So let’s just dive into the deep end with: TRANS PARENTS (Mother's Day). There are two parts of this that seem separate, but are invariably kind of linked together even
- [THE PAST 5 aka THE NEW PAST 4: RECOVERING TRANS CHILDHOODS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/04/29/the-past-5-aka-the-new-past4-recovering-trans-childhoods/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we dive into a topic that’s come up often before, but it’s finally getting an essay of its own. It’s something that can plague those of us who transition as adults all our lives… THE PAST 5: RECOVERING TRANS CHILDHOODS. This obviously deals a lot with how difficult the
- [WHAT IS TRANS TUESDAY?](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/02/what-is-trans-tuesday/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week’s thread is a first (and probably only) of its kind, as we’re talking EXPANSION and THE FUTURE OF TRANS TUESDAYS – a WEBSITE AND PODCAST! (but fear not, they’re staying as threads too) I’ve talked about where my Trans Tuesday threads came from before, but briefly they all stemmed from
- [PERFORMATIVE ALLYSHIP 2: FALSE ALLYSHIP](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/performative-allyship-2-false-allyship/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re talking about cis allyship, or lack thereof. And not from transphobes and bigots, but from people who think of themselves as trans allies. Buckle up, we’re crashing into PERFORMATIVE ALLYSHIP 2: FALSE ALLYSHIP. Some context before we dive in. You’ll want to see my Trans Tuesday on No Escape 2:
- [CIS PRIVILEGE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/privilege/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re talking about one aspect of a big topic, and we’re going to go places you probably never thought of, and it’s going to end with me asking you something. Buckle up, because we’re gonna talk about PRIVILEGE. There’s so many ways privilege affects our lives. As I didn’t begin my
- [PROACTIVE ALLYSHIP (be an accomplice)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/proactive-allyship-be-an-accomplice/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! I’m always talking about how important cis allyship is (because it’s true and I’m right and very smart). And today I’m gonna show you how to be a champion accomplice with PROACTIVE ALLYSHIP aka BE AN ACCOMPLICE (and also the WGA strike!) Let’s start with an allyship framework, because everyone is new
- [TRANS POLITICS 1: STOP TOLERATING TRANSPHOBIA](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/trans-politics-1-cis-people-stand-up-for-us/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is part 1 of a 2-part series that are some of the most important Trans Tuesdays ever. Cis friends, I need you to read this, share it, talk about it. Here comes TRANS POLITICS 1: STOP TOLERATING TRANSPHOBIA. Before we begin, I want to say that after next week’s essay, Trans
- [TRANS RAGE 1 (stop forgetting about us)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/trans-rage-1-stop-forgetting-about-us/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This was difficult to write. It makes me uncomfortable, and it will likely make you uncomfortable. But I can’t NOT talk about it, it’s been on my mind since Roe fell. Clear your mind, because we’re talking TRANS RAGE aka STOP FORGETTING ABOUT US. Cis folks, maybe more than ever I NEED
- [TRANS RAGE 2 (cis apathy)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/trans-rage-2-cis-apathy/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is DIRECTLY related to last week’s post, so much so you could even call it TRANS RAGE 2 (SUPER DEPRESSING BOOGALOO). It’s actually all part of the exact same thing, but this time we’re going to call it: CIS APATHY. You NEED to have read last week’s thread first, because again
- [THE SIGNS WERE ALWAYS THERE (that we're trans)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/the-signs-that-were-always-there-that-were-trans/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re going to take a personal look into my past to look at THE SIGNS THAT WERE ALWAYS THERE EVEN WHEN WE REFUSED TO SEE THEM. There’s no other way to say this than… this is gonna be embarrassing. For me. Actually it’s making me a little uncomfortable, because I feel
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE, part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/the-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-1/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we begin a big series so many of you have been waiting and asking for. Do you guys ever think about dying? Tillyvision returns for THE INTENTIONAL (!?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE (the movie), PART 1! This movie ROCKED MY WORLD when I saw it, because I instantly connected with it on
- [TRANS RIGHTS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/trans-rights/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! ONCE AGAIN I am compelled to write about a topic I didn’t plan to, because the society we live in is forcing my hand. Transgender people are never not under attack these days, even when good things happen. Today we’re talking about: TRANS RIGHTS. This is, perhaps not surprisingly, going to branch
- [BOYMODE and GIRLMODE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/boymode-and-girlmode/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about an aspect of being transgender that I suspect most cis folks have never even thought about (which makes some degree of sense, because you’ve never needed to). Time to learn about: BOYMODE and GIRLMODE. Basically boymode is simply when a trans woman, or nonbinary person, dresses in their
- [TRANS RIGHTS 2 (aka HELP US aka 35 FUCKS)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/trans-rights-2-aka-help-us-aka-35-fucks/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday. No exclamation point this week, because I’m fucking pissed. I feel like I’ve said all this before but considering this week I HAVE to say it again. Read it. Share it. Please. Today’s topic: TRANS RIGHTS 2 aka HELP US aka 35 FUCKS (I counted). I’m so mad I don’t even know
- [CIS IS NOT A SLUR](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/cis-is-not-a-slur/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about something that’s become a hot-button topic… for no good reason. It’s simply whiny bigots getting mad that the world isn’t the way they want it to be. Cis folks, your friends and family need to see this: CIS IS NOT A SLUR. If you’ve somehow missed the chaotic
- [THE ERASURE OF TRANS MEN](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/the-erasure-of-trans-men/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing a big problem that’s cropped up in our society that you might not have noticed, but it’s high time you did. We’re talking THE ERASURE OF TRANS MEN. So, hey, obviously trans men exist, and this is a thing you’re aware of. But in so much of the discourse
- [THE FALSE DICHOTOMY](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/the-false-dichotomy/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about something that permeates ALL of our society in all kinds of ways you probably never realized. It’s also part of what took me far too long to untangle in figuring out I was transgender, and that’s: THE FALSE DICHOTOMY. So what is a false dichotomy? Well a dichotomy
- [THE ONLY TRANS PERSON YOU KNOW](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/the-only-trans-person-you-know/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about something I suspect every trans person has to deal with in at least some aspect of their lives: being THE ONLY TRANS PERSON YOU KNOW. I’ve talked many times about the size of the transgender population in terms of percentages, but everyone’s new to these at some
- [GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION TO EXPLORE GENDER](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/07/giving-yourself-permission-to-explore-gender/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about a specific thing (literally, a thing) that helped me figure out I was trans: MY WATCH. Though more broadly what we’re really talking about is GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION TO EXPLORE GENDER. Righto, so… how the heck does a watch help you figure out you’re trans? Excellent question, and one I’ve
- [HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE TRANS?](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/how-do-you-know-if-youre-trans/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re talking about a question a lot of people ask, though usually not directed specifically at me (but sometimes it has been!). It’s that age old question: HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE TRANS? I want to caution you, even more than normal, that *I* can’t tell you if you’re trans. Nobody
- [TRANS INTERSECTIONALITY](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/trans-intersectionality/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Others have spoken on this topic better than I can, but I’m a white trans lady so I have the privilege of more people listening to me. I honestly can’t believe it needs to be said, it’s such a no-brainer. Yet here we are talking TRANS INTERSECTIONALITY. If you’re somehow unfamiliar, intersectionality is
- [FINDING OUR OWN REPRESENTATION (P!nk)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/finding-our-own-representation-pnk/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week is a personal little corner of the bigger topic of FINDING OUR OWN REPRESENTATION. I suspect a lot of other trans people have similar things in their lives, but the specific one we’re talking about today is P!nk! (the singer, not the color) If you’ve followed me for any length of
- [PRIVILEGE (time and money)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/07/privilege-time-and-money/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about one aspect of a very, very large topic: PRIVILEGE. Specifically, we’re talking about a privilege that a lot of trans people don’t have, which makes things so much harder for us: TIME AND MONEY Privilege manifests in so many ways in our society, and the biggest one that I
- [TERFs](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/terfs/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today’s topic is the last thing I want to be talking about today, especially given last week’s thread about how a show I loved made me feel dehumanized. But given the news this is the only thing on my mind, so buckle up for: TERFs. I didn’t plan to talk about this
- [THIS IS NOT FOR YOU (Trans Day of Visibility aka gatekeeping aka you are trans enough)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/this-is-not-for-you-trans-day-of-visibility-aka-gatekeeping-aka-you-are-trans-enough/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week is a special for TRANS DAY OF VISIBILITY. And this one is for EVERY TRANS OR NONBINARY PERSON WHO’S NOT OUT YET. And I’m here to tell you YES, YOU ARE TRANS ENOUGH. This topic is also known as THIS IS NOT FOR YOU aka AM I TRANS ENOUGH aka GATEKEEPING.
- [LEGAL NAME AND GENDER MARKER CHANGE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/legally-name-and-gender-marker-change/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today’s topic is LEGALLY CHANGING YOUR NAME AND GENDER MARKER. My experience in California is going to be remarkably different than in other parts of the country/world however, so keep that in mind! Last Wednesday, May 19, my documents were dropped off at the courthouse to start the legal process of getting my
- [THE PAST (and why it haunts us)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/the-past-and-why-it-haunts-us/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing something that can be difficult for some trans people who transition as adults. Hop in your chair and initiate splinter sequence, because it’s time to talk about: THE PAST, AND WHY IT HAUNTS US. Each person in the world (or frankly, universe, I don’t discriminate), cis or otherwise, has
- [TRANS COURAGE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/08/trans-courage/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re talking about something nearly every trans person is intimately familiar with, because we often can’t be who we are without it. And I’m going to tell you a (true!) story to help explain. Let’s dive into: TRANS COURAGE. This all begins with a childhood story, and you're going to wonder how
- [MISGENDERING AND PASSING](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/10/misgendering-and-passing/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re getting into two topics! One is very straightforward and easy, the other is convoluted and complex. But they’re intrinsically related, so we’re gonna talk about them together. Let’s get into MISGENDERING AND PASSING. Misgendering, quite clearly, is when someone genders another the wrong way. This doesn’t just happen to trans
- [THE PAST 3 aka THE NEW PAST 2 aka TRANS GRIEF 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/the-past-3-aka-the-new-past-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is the most difficult installment I’ve ever had to write. I thought it would be about TRANS PEOPLE AND A.I., and it is, but I was surprised to discover it’s so much more. This is THE PAST 3 aka THE NEW PAST 2 aka… TRANS GRIEF 1. In fact, this was so
- [THE PAST 4 aka THE NEW PAST 3 aka TRANS GRIEF 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/the-past-4-aka-the-new-past-2-aka-trans-grief-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is the second part of the most difficult trans tuesday I’ve written. I’m gonna rip my heart out for you as we conclude our talk on TRANS PEOPLE AND A.I. in THE PAST 4 aka THE NEW PAST 2 aka TRANS GRIEF 2. It’s vital you read the first part of this
- [THIS IS NOT FOR YOU 2 (let trans people have things)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/this-is-not-for-you-2-let-trans-people-have-things/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about something that recently surprised me, though it really shouldn’t have. We’re going all in on: THIS IS NOT FOR YOU 2 aka LET TRANS PEOPLE HAVE THINGS. You’re going to need some context for this. First, please see my original THIS IS NOT FOR YOU trans tuesday, which
- [TRANSITION SETBACKS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/transition-setbacks/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re gonna talk about something every trans person deals with, though we wish we didn’t have to. So let’s examine TRANSITION SETBACKS. Because for a while… I almost lost myself. This is something I subconsciously knew going in, and probably even consciously knew on some level. Few things in life happen
- [TUCKING AND BINDING](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/10/tucking-and-binding/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week things are gonna get uncomfortable. Literally. Strap in (a ha, it is to laugh) because we’re talking about: TUCKING AND BINDING. Cis folks, this one includes activities you can do right in your own home! Caveat: as a trans woman, binding isn’t something I’ve done or have any experience
- [STOP STARING AT US (trans people are human beings)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/stop-staring-at-us-trans-people-are-human-beings/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week’s topic is one I should never have needed to write, yet here we are. This keeps being a problem so we’re gonna talk about it. Cis friends, please pay attention to STOP STARING AT US (trans people are human beings) Hi cis friends! Y’know how in these essays I link to
- [PANDEMIC TRANSITION](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/pandemic-transition/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re talking about something that’s unique to me and a small subset of other trans people: the PANDEMIC TRANSITION. As always, while there may be commonalities, these are my experiences only.I don’t speak for others, and if you interpret what I’m saying that way you are wrong and bad and you should
- [THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY RESULTS, part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/12/the-2022-us-trans-survey-results-part-1/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! You may not know this, but in 2022 the largest survey of transgender Americans happened, and in February of 2024 the early report was released, so let’s take a look at THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY RESULTS, part 1 (of 2)! In 2022, the National Center for Transgender Equality ran the largest-ever survey of
- [NAMES AND PRONOUNS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/names-and-pronouns/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today’s topic is an important one for those of you out there who have (or will eventually have) transgender people in your life: NAMES AND PRONOUNS. Again, remember that I do not speak for all trans people or all trans women. These are my own experiences, which probably share larger commonalities with
- [SEARCHING FOR MEANING (when you're trans and don't know it)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/searching-for-meaning-when-youre-trans-and-dont-know-it/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about something surprising that recently came up and that I never anticipated being a thing, much less one to talk about. And it’s hard to describe, but I’m gonna call it: SEARCHING FOR MEANING (when you're trans and don't know it). This is going to be a little more
- [SEXUALITY IS NOT GENDER](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/sexuality-is-not-gender/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Let’s dive into a complicated topic that a lot of trans people struggle with, myself included. We’re talking SEXUALITY IS NOT GENDER. Also - bows Bows BOWS! (they’re related, trust me) me in a light blue unicorn and rainbow dress with a white iridescent bow in my hair me in a sporty pink and gray top
- [PHYSICAL REPRESENTATION (and the Hollywood ideal)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/physical-representation/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re yet again talking about REPRESENTATION. Again! Because it’s a big topic with a lot of aspects to cover. And today is about the character of Cara Dune from The Mandalorian. Eventually. It’ll get there, I promise. Don’t worry if you haven’t seen the show, that won’t matter for what we’re
- [BAD REPRESENTATION (Lovecraft Country)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/bad-representation-lovecraft-country/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today’s topic is: REPRESENTATION. I didn’t plan to cover this aspect of trans rep in media first, but the most recent #LovecraftCountry episode has weighed heavily on me, so I figured this was the time. This is going to be a bit sensitive, and I want it to be a discussion. But
- [GOOD REPRESENTATION (Cyberpunk 2077)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/good-representation-cyberpunk-2077/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! We’re going to start off 2021 talking about: REPRESENTATION (again), but a different aspect than before. Specifically, today is about CYBERPUNK 2077.And this is probably not going to go the way that you think.Note: There will be SPOILERS for some game content and some images are adult-ish, so gird thy loins and
- [TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2022](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/trans-rep-in-media-2022/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Through all of 2022 I tracked every movie and tv show I watched to bring you TILLY’S 2022 TRANS REP IN MEDIA! We’re going to talk about where trans people appeared or were discussed, and under what context, and see if we can find some conclusions! Before we dig in, a couple
- [TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2023 PART 1 (movies)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/trans-rep-in-media-2023-part-1-movies/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Over the course of 2023 I tracked every movie and tv show I watched to bring you TILLY’S 2023 TRANS REP IN MEDIA! We’ll discuss where trans people or issues appeared, under what context, and hopefully get a picture of how things are going! At the end I’ll be comparing trans rep
- [TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2023 PART 2 (tv part 1)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/trans-rep-in-media-2023-part-2-tv-part-1/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is the second part of TILLY’S 2023 TRANS REP IN MEDIA! This week we’re discussing the first part of trans rep in television! Good, bad, and in between! Let’s see where things are at. If you missed last week’s talk about TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2023 PART 1 (movies), you may
- [TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2023 PART 3 (tv part 2)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/trans-rep-in-media-2023-part-3-movies-part-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is the final part of TILLY’S 2023 TRANS REP IN MEDIA! This week we’re finishing the talk on television, and will then look at the bigger picture overall, including numbers from the movies discussed two weeks ago! If you haven’t yet, be sure to read TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2023 part
- [ANECDOTAL TRANS HEALTHCARE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/anecdotal-trans-healthcare/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about something nearly every trans person has encountered, and I suspect it’s something most cis people have zero idea about. And it’s pretty messed up! It’s time to discuss ANECDOTAL TRANS HEALTHCARE. The intersection of trans people and healthcare, if you didn’t already know, is pretty fraught. And not
- [ASK TILLY ANYTHING ABOUT BEING TRANS, part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/15/ask-tilly-anything-about-being-trans-part-1/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday 100! Can you believe it?! I’m not sure I can. Yet here we are! I’ve written all of these for YOU, trans/nb/cis alike, and wanted to use this one to answer your questions, and you didn’t disappoint! So here we go with ASK TILLY ANYTHING ABOUT BEING TRANS! I got so many good questions,
- [ASK TILLY ANYTHING ABOUT BEING TRANS, part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/16/ask-tilly-anything-about-being-trans-part-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is the continuation of last week’s ASK TILLY ANYTHING ABOUT BEING TRANS. You had so many questions that deserved thoughtful answers so it went long. This week: personal changes, HRT, sex, early transition tips, how to know if you’re trans, and more! If you missed ASK TILLY ANYTHING ABOUT BEING TRANS part
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE, part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Here we go, this week Tillyvision dives in by timestamps to talk THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE (the movie), PART 2! Something’s changing within us, and that’s weird! Before you read this, you should definitely read PART 1 from last week, which contains context you’ll need, as well as the set-up for
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE, part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-3/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision continues with THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE (the movie), PART 3! We’re gonna engage with the subconscious, and take our first steps into the real world as ourselves. Things are gonna get weird! Of course, be sure you begin with PART 1 and all the context you need. And PART 2,
- [TRANS FREEDOM](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/trans-freedom/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing something you might not have ever thought about in this exact way. I know I certainly hadn’t. What are we talking about? UNDERWEAR. But honestly, really and truly, what we’re talking about is TRANS FREEDOM. There are some prerequisites for this topic! I mean you don’t HAVE to read
- [GENDERED CHILDHOODS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/gendered-childhoods/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing something you’re perfectly aware of, because you are a human who was a child that grew up in this society. And if you’ve ever set foot in a clothing or toy store, it couldn’t be more obvious: GENDERED CHILDHOODS. I am, of course, talking about the ways in which
- [INTERNALIZED TRANSPHOBIA](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/internalized-transphobia/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week’s topic is important, is vital to trans people being seen and treated equally by society, and it’s as important for trans people to understand as it is cis people. Time to root out the darkness within as we combat INTERNALIZED TRANSPHOBIA. So this is kind of tough to talk about, and
- [FREEING UP MY BRAIN (aka lunch with Tilly)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/freeing-up-my-brain-aka-lunch-with-tilly/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! WARNING: this thread is gonna make you hungry. It’s a necessary evil. Maybe it’ll inspire you? The weirdest thing is you might not expect that given the actual topic: FREEING UP MY BRAIN (aka LUNCH WITH TILLY). This is very much related to CONFIDENCE 2: INTO THE UNKNOWN aka WHAT IS HAPPENING aka
- [HAIR](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/hair/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re going to talk about something that I suspect is pretty personal and big for most trans people: HAIR. I’ve mentioned before how I was pretty sure I was transgender for a long time, years in fact. But I had a hard date where I knew, even if I WAS trans, I
- [HAIR 2 (my first haircut)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/hair-2-my-first-haircut/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today’s topic is a follow-up to a previous one, and is one (to my surprise!) several people have been asking me about and wanting to see recently so… here we go. HAIR PART 2: aka FIRST HAIRCUT. Of my life! For much added context, please see my first thread on my HAIR. And
- [TRANS MOTIVATION](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/trans-motivation/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing how wanting, NEEDING to transition to our true selves can provide us with a seemingly infinite wellspring of incentive to accomplish things we never thought we could. We’re talking TRANS MOTIVATION. Somewhat related to this is the trans tuesday on TRANS COURAGE, which isn’t something any of us should
- [BODILY AUTONOMY (and my tattoo)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/bodily-autonomy-and-my-tattoo/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re talking about something a LOT of people have asked me about: MY TATTOO. And what may surprise you is that it’s 100% tied in with my transition, because what this is really about is: BODILY AUTONOMY. Back in April of 2022, I went in two three-hour sessions to get my first
- [HEAVILY GENDERED CLOTHES AND TRANS PEOPLE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/20/heavily-gendered-clothes-and-trans-people/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we’re going to talk about something unique, problematic, and wonderful for most trans people (and cis people too, if we’re being honest): HEAVILY GENDERED CLOTHES AND TRANS PEOPLE, AND WHY MUST IT ALL BE SO WEIRD. Every person, trans or otherwise, has a unique relationship with clothing. I’ve had a really weird relationship
- [COMPLIMENTS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/20/compliments/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing something I never anticipated but was absolutely delighted to discover after transition. It’s another way a whole new part of life opened up for me. So let’s talk about COMPLIMENTS. There’s two sides to this, and both are actually an unexpected BENEFIT to being out as trans, that I’d
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE, part 5](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/20/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-5/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision keeps on keepin’ on with THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE (the movie), PART 5! You’re gonna get some trans confirmation in this one that you’re not gonna believe… but it’s true! PART 1, and the context. PART 2, and act I. PART 3, and things start getting messy. PART 4, and
- [CONFIDENCE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/20/confidence/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! There’s something that drastically changed for me, from pre-transition to now. And I think it holds true for the majority of trans people, if not all of us. So let’s talk about: CONFIDENCE. All the way back when I was a wee little Tilly who did not yet know she was Tilly, I
- [CONFIDENCE 2: INTO THE UNKNOWN aka WHAT IS HAPPENING aka A WHOLE NEW WORLD](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/confidence-2-into-the-unknown-aka-what-is-happening-aka-a-whole-new-world/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This past weekend I got to do something as myself for the first time, something that used to give me a ton of anxiety and that I was very bad at. So here we go INTO THE UNKNOWN aka WHAT IS HAPPENING aka A WHOLE NEW WORLD. A few primers so you can
- [TRANS BODY HACKING](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/trans-body-hacking/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today’s topic can be described many different ways, but there’s one term I love a lot, because it’s the most inclusive and lets you know just how normal being trans is. So break out the science textbooks, we’re talking: TRANS BODY HACKING. So what the heck is body hacking? It’s using science and
- [TRANS ROLES AND STORIES](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/trans-roles-and-stories/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re going to talk about trans roles in media, and who gets to portray them, and trans stories in media, and who gets to tell them. Spoiler: it’s trans people! But why is that? Let’s dive in to: TRANS ROLES AND STORIES. This week, what we’re specifically talking about is who gets
- [INTERVIEW WITH MAYA DEANE, AUTHOR OF “WRATH GODDESS SING,” part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/interview-with-maya-deane-author-of-wrath-goddess-sing-part-1/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week is a first for us, as we begin a two part interview with @mayadeanewriter, author of WRATH GODDESS SING - a retelling of the ILIAD with Achilles as a trans woman. To say the book affected me down to my core is an understatement. This week we discuss pitching trans stories, why “Achilles
- [INTERVIEW WITH MAYA DEANE, AUTHOR OF “WRATH GODDESS SING,” part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/interview-with-maya-deane-author-of-wrath-goddess-sing-part-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! We’re back with the conclusion of my interview with @mayadeanewriter, author of WRATH GODDESS SING - a retelling of the ILIAD with Achilles as a trans woman. We’re getting into other trans characters, my favorite passages, and more! If you missed PART 1, be sure you check that out first! And then dive right into
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE, part 7](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-7/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! We’ve got the Tillyvision sign! And that means it’s time for THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE (the movie), PART 7! To heck with the false shell! But then… what comes next? The setup, PART 1. The intro, PART 2. The trouble, PART 3. The more trouble, PART 4. Oh god so much
- [THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE, part 8](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-8/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s time for this installment of Tillyvision to come to a close, as we wrap up THE INTENTIONAL (!) TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE (the movie), PART 8! Self-actualization is at hand! Things are gonna get emo. One last time, PART 1. And PART 2. Our old friend PART 3. Our other old friend PART
- [INTERVIEW WITH SHAKINA (writer of Quantum Leap episode “Let Them Play.”)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/interview-with-shakina-writer-of-quantum-leap-episode-let-them-play/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we're going to discuss the Quantum Leap episode LET THEM PLAY which aired on February 6 2023, and we'll be talking about it with the writer and director of the episode, Shakina! If you haven't seen it yet, go watch it right now! This is the first Trans Tuesday I’ve done
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF THE LITTLE MERMAID‘S “PART OF YOUR WORLD”](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-the-little-mermaids-part-of-your-world/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! I’ve mentioned before how we trans folks have to find what representation we can, because we so rarely see ourselves in media. So today’s topic (surprising even me) is: THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF THE LITTLE MERMAID'S "PART OF YOUR WORLD." This is a revision of a thread from 70-some Trans Tuesdays
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF REAL GENIUS, part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-real-genius-part-1/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Today we’re going to dive into another movie with an incredible trans allegory that says something truly wonderful about trans folks. We’re starting THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF REAL GENIUS, part 1 - CONTEXT AND SCREENWRITER PJ TOROKVEI. I had somehow managed to never see this movie for my entire life
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF REAL GENIUS, part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-real-genius-part-2/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Now that you’ve got the needed context, we’re going to dive into the movie itself and show you what PJ Torokvei had to say about being trans in: THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF REAL GENIUS, part 2! If you missed that needed context, you really must first read PART 1. You
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF REAL GENIUS, part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-real-genius-part-3/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we’re talking about the dream (THE! DREAM!) and pools and makeup and self-discovery and, if we’re lucky, self-acceptance in THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF REAL GENIUS, part 3! As a reminder, you need to have the context from PART 1 about writer PJ Torokvei and the time this movie
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF REAL GENIUS, part 4](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-real-geniusrg-part-4/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Today we’re going to see what it means to self-actualize, talk about self-hating trans people, and touch your heart as we wrap up with THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF REAL GENIUS, part 4! PART 1, with much needed context about writer PJ Torokvei and the time this movie was written and
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF THE TWILIGHT ZONE’S “NERVOUS MAN IN A FOUR DOLLAR ROOM”.](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-the-twilight-zones-nervous-man-in-a-four-dollar-room/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! I wanted to do this one last week, but had to prime you a bit (you’ve been primed and didn’t even know it!) for: THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF THE TWILIGHT ZONE’S NERVOUS MAN IN A FOUR DOLLAR ROOM. I’ve been a huge Twilight Zone fan all my life, but only
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO s1, Part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-1/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s time to dive into one of the most ambitious topics I’ve tackled. This year I fell completely in love with a show on Apple TV, and at least part of that is due to THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO. Someone recently called my trans allegory deep dives Tillyvision, and
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO S1, Part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/21/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week brings the THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO, PART 2! Tillyvison powers to full, it’s time to Silo up! We’re picking up right where we left off in the pilot! Before we do, be sure you’ve read PART 1, which has context you’ll need going in, and also covers
- [TRANS VOICES 1: Gendering](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/trans-voices-1-gendering/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing something that can be a huge problem for a lot of trans people who transition as adults. It’s something that’s eaten up SO MUCH of my time and energy and I bet you have no idea. We’re talking about TRANS VOICES: GENDERING. I routinely see so many trans people
- [TRANS VOICES 2: HEARING THE TRUE YOU](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/trans-voices-2-hearing-the-true-you/) - Trans Tuesday 163 - Voice 2, hearing the true you (discharged from therapy, voice timeline, constant work, DISTERB) (revision of 104) Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is the second part of our discussion of the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life! Welcome to TRANS VOICES 2: HEARING THE TRUE YOU aka I GRADUATED
- [TRANS VOICES 3: SCIENCE AND TIPS (interview with SLP Jein Yi) ](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/trans-voices-3-science-and-tips-interview-with-slp-jein-yi/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Today we have an interview with the speech pathologist who helped change my life! We’re gonna talk all about trans voices and how to safely work on changing them! So let’s get into TRANS VOICES 3: SCIENCE AND TIPS. This interview contains some of the science behind gender-affirming speech therapy, as well as
- [TRANS MICROAGGRESSIONS](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/trans-microaggressions/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing something every trans person has to deal with, all these little things that add up in ways cis people likely don’t even realize. It’s death by a thousand cuts with TRANS MICROAGGRESSIONS. Cis folks, this one is again largely directed at you. So please read and try to understand.
- [A TRANS RE-WEDDING](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/a-trans-re-wedding/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! On March 23, 2024, my wife and I renewed our vows and got married all over again, so we could have one with the real me. It didn’t go to plan, it wasn’t perfect, and it was the best day of my entire life. Let’s dive into A TRANS RE-WEDDING! A framed sign that
- [TRANSMEDICALISM (and WPATH version 1)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/transmedicalism-and-wpath-version-1/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about a horrible, terrible, no-good, very bad concept that plagues the trans community, and you might be surprised to learn where it comes from: TRANSMEDICALISM, and WPATH version 1. Trans Day of Visibility is coming up, so this is something I wanted to talk about as it’s related to TDoV
- [TRANS TRAUMA 1: THAT OLD DYSPHORIC FEELING](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/transphobia-is-always-with-us-that-old-dysphoric-feeling/) - Art by Alexandra Haynak, on Pixabay Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re discussing an unhappy surprise that brought up feelings I thought were far behind me. It kinda wrecked me for a bit. Here’s TRANS TRAUMA 1: THAT OLD DYSPHORIC FEELING. This is something that’s happened to me a few times, and I want to
- [UNEXPECTED BONUSES OF TRANSITION](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/unexpected-bonuses-of-transition/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about happy aspects of being trans that I was entirely unprepared for, little delightful side-effects that I never could have expected: UNEXPECTED BONUSES OF TRANSITION. I suspect there are things like this for every trans person out there, though what they are undoubtedly varies. For people who transition as
- [WHAT REAL CIS ACCEPTANCE LOOKS LIKE](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/what-real-cis-acceptance-looks-like/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week’s topic is one that’s really important and involves the cis folks out there just as much as it involves any transgender person. We’re talking about WHAT REAL CIS ACCEPTANCE LOOKS LIKE. Cis folks, PLEASE spread the word on this. So what am I talking about when I say “acceptance”? It’s not
- [CIS GRIEF (over trans people when we come out)](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/cis-griefc-over-trans-people-when-we-come-out/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about something nearly every trans person has to deal with, even though we shouldn’t… because this isn’t about us, it’s about cis people. Prepare thyself, because we’re gonna talk about CIS GRIEF OVER TRANS PEOPLE. Cis friends, as before (and as always, actually), your sharing of this is vital
- [CIS SPOUSAL AND PARTNER SUPPORT](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/cis-spousal-and-partner-support/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we discuss something super important for a lot of trans folks, and yet it so very often goes south and impacts us in so many ways: CIS SPOUSAL AND PARTNER SUPPORT DURING TRANSITION. It’s a fairly well-known thing in the trans community that a whole lot of relationships do not survive transition.
- [IMPLICIT QUEERPHOBIA](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/implicit-queerphobia/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This week we’re talking about how when queer people finally get SOME representation that’s long been denied (specifically in #ALeagueOfTheirOwn #ALOTO), some cishet people, even allies, Cannot Process That. Welcome to: IMPLICIT QUEERPHOBIA. Cis het people, it’s important for you to read this and understand what’s going on here. Sharing is encouraged. Because
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO S1, Part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/25/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-3/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s time for the third installment of THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO! Tillyvison core operating at peak efficiency, it’s time to Silo up! This week we’re covering episodes two and three of season 1! This would be a remarkably bad place for you to begin reading these, but if you’re
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO S1, Part 4](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/25/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-4/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s time for part four of THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO! Tillyvison reservoir full, it’s time to Silo up! This week it’s an episode 4 and episode 5 twofer! Of course you’ll want to read PART 1 first. And of course you’ll want to follow that with PART 2. And
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO S1, Part 5](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/25/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-5/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s time for the fifth part of THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO! Tillyvison reservoir full, it’s time to Silo up! This week we’re covering episode 6! It’s a HUGE one for the allegory and gets an installment all its own! So lemme hit you with the hotness from PART 1.
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO S1, Part 6](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/25/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-6/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s part the sixth of THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO! Tillyvison set to 4k ultra HD, it’s time to Silo up! And to talk about episode 7! Presuming you’d like this all to make sense, do read PART 1 first. Presuming you want it to make even more sense than
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO S1, Part 7](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/25/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-7/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s lucky part seven of THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO! Tillyvison available where legal, consult your local laws, it’s time to Silo up for episode 8! It’d be super helpful if you read PART 1 first. And even more helpful if you read PART 2! And even MORE helpful if
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO S1, Part 8](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/25/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-8/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! It’s part eight of THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO! Tillyvison set to 4k ultra HD, it’s time to Silo up! We’re going to cover episode 9, and this one has a MAJOR confirmation of one of my theses! If this is the seventh part, where’s PART 1? Good question. But
- [THE UNINTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO S1, Part 9](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/25/the-unintentional-trans-allegory-of-silo-s1-part-9/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Here we are, finally at the end! It’s part nine THE UNINTENTIONAL (?) TRANS ALLEGORY OF SILO! Tillyvison now in 3D, it’s time to Silo up! Everything’s been leading here, and the ending maybe isn’t what you think it is! No time to be cute. Here’s PART 1. Tilly! You’re always cute.
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/09/03/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-i-saw-the-tv-glow-part-1/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! So so SO many people have been asking for this, and waiting for it, and I’m delighted to tell you that I took untold levels of psychic damage just to bring you: THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 1! This one was especially tough, because I Saw the TV Glow has left every trans person that I know in literal tears. It’s a really important but incredibly difficult watch, and I took six hours to go through it and take notes on it and over ten hours to write it up. It’s been difficult, as what it’s saying is not easy to get through. Because many (most?) of us trans folks lived it.
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/09/10/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-i-saw-the-tv-glow-part-2/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision has achieved liftoff and we’re headed for the stars in THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 2! We’re starting to explore our transness, but have no idea what that means. Here’s PART 1 if you missed it! 6:56 - Owen: “Are your parents voting too?” Maddy:
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/09/17/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-i-saw-the-tv-glow-part-3/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision rockets through the sky with THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 3! Exploring our transness has… made things super complicated! Be sure you’ve read all the establishing stuff in PART 1 first! And of course, the continuation in PART 2! 21:49 - It’s two years later
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 4](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/09/24/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-i-saw-the-tv-glow-part-4/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision exits the atmosphere in THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 4! Our fear of our true selves is in the driver's seat, and that’s baaaaad news. You know you need to read PART 1 first! And read PART 2 second! And what a surprise, you need
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 5](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/10/01/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-i-saw-the-tv-glow-part-5/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision now in stable orbit in THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 5! Our connection to community returns, and brings with it the hope of another chance at self-actualization! You know the drill, don’tcha? Sure you do. PART 1!Drill PART 2! Keep drilling with PART 3! This
- [THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 6](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/10/08/the-intentional-trans-allegory-of-i-saw-the-tv-glow-part-6/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! Tillyvision burns through reentry in THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF I SAW THE TV GLOW, part 6! Dysphoria and transphobia are coming for us with everything they’ve got, and it exacts a heavy toll! You should obvs start with PART 1! And continue you PART 2! And then go to PART 3!
- [TRANS POLITICS 2: YOU MUST VOTE TO PROTECT US](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/10/29/trans-politics-2-you-must-vote-to-protect-us/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is part 2 of a series that are some of the most important Trans Tuesdays ever. Cis friends, again… please read. Take it to heart. Talk to other cis people about this, we need you. Here comes TRANS POLITICS 2: YOU MUST VOTE TO PROTECT US. Cis friends, I have two
- [THE 2024 ELECTION RESULTS: WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE?](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/11/10/the-2024-election-results-where-do-we-go-from-here/) - Welcome to #TransTuesday! This is a completely unplanned, last-minute installment because I couldn’t not talk about what just happened. Here comes THE 2024 ELECTION RESULTS: WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE? First off, I want to apologize for it taking most of a week for me to get this up. My schedule is always bananas
- [PHOTOS 3: TILLY'S GUIDE TO SELFIES](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/12/03/photos-3-tillys-guide-to-selfies/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Much to my own surprise, this week is a topic people have asked me about for literal years, which blows my mind, but here we are! Welcome to PHOTOS 3: TILLY’S GUIDE TO SELFIES. This is all related, first of all, to the Trans Tuesday on PHOTOS AND REFLECTIONS, and how
- [TRANS TRAUMA 2: SOCIETAL GASLIGHTING](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/12/17/trans-trauma-2-societal-gaslighting/) - Art by Alexandra Haynak, on Pixabay Welcome to #TransTuesday! Let’s talk about something that I think nearly every trans person who transitions as an adult wakes up to, and something many cis people probably never even realize happens. Let’s get into TRANS TRAUMA 2: SOCIETAL GASLIGHTING. Let me start by saying that trans people are
- [TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2024 MEDIA part 1: MOVIES](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/01/21/trans-representation-in-2024-media-part-1-movies/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Over the course of 2024 I tracked every movie and tv show I watched as it’s time for TILLY’S 2024 TRANS REP IN MEDIA, part 1: MOVIES! Let’s talk the good, the bad, and the oh god not again! Okay, this is going to be a three-part report, because there’s so
- [TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2024 MEDIA part 2: TV part 1](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/01/28/trans-representation-in-2024-media-part-2-tv-part-1/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Here we go with TILLY’S 2024 TRANS REP IN MEDIA, part 2: TV part 1! We dive into every complete season of tv I saw last year, and take a look at the trans representation therein! There shall be spoilers! If you missed 2024 TRANS REP IN MEDIA part 1: MOVIES,
- [TRANS REPRESENTATION IN 2024 MEDIA part 3: TV part 2](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/02/04/trans-representation-in-2024-media-part-3-tv-part-2/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! Here we go with TILLY’S 2024 TRANS REP IN MEDIA, part 3: TV part 2! We finish our discussion on trans rep on complete seasons of tv that I saw last year, and then look at the overall numbers and see how they stack up my past two annual reports! Spoilers
- [ASK TILLY ANYTHING, part 3](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/02/11/ask-tilly-anything-part-3/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! To celebrate the podcast version of these reaching its 100th episode, you sent me tons of questions, and I have tons of answers! Here’s ASK TILLY ANYTHING! …part 3?! Okay so before I get into it, I wanna say yes, this is actually the third AMA essay I’ve done (and there
- [ASK TILLY ANYTHING, part 4](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/02/18/ask-tilly-anything-part-4/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! To continue celebrating 100 episodes of this podcast, you asked me stuff and I answered stuff! So here’s the stuff: ASK TILLY ANYTHING! …part 4! You may want to check out ASK TILLY ANYTHING part 1, part 2, and part 3 first! Or not. I’m not the boss of you. (What
- [ASK TILLY ANYTHING, part 5](https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2025/02/25/ask-tilly-anything-part-5/) - Welcome to Trans Tuesday! This week we wrap up our 100th episode celebration in episode 102, because I’m mad with power and do what I want! So here comes ASK TILLY ANYTHING! …part 5! Do see ASK TILLY ANYTHING part 1 and part 2 from years ago, and then the new part 3 and part

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